I told my little sister to leave the wedding ‘immediately’ – here’s why

The relationship as a sister is not always easy and for this bride with a long history in a difficult relationship, even she did not expect to be so disrespected on her wedding day.

Writing on the popular AITA forum Reddit, the 25-year-old newlywed shares how growing up, her adopted younger sister always had her way due to her rough start in life.

“When I was nine, my parents adopted my sister ‘Jen,’ who was seven at the time,” says the woman.

“Jen was weak and scared because of the neglect. We did everything to make her feel loved. We bought her lots of toys. Everything Jenny wanted, she got.

“I was very happy to have a sister and I understood why my parents gave her special treatment.”

“She threw a tantrum”

However, over the years, the special treatment did not stop.

“If she didn’t get what she wanted, she threw a tantrum. I still felt loved and cared for by my parents, but I was always second to Jenny.

“Growing up, I did everything I could to leave home. I got my first job when I was 12 years old. I took my driving test THE DAY I turned 16 and bought a car the next day. I went to college on the other side of the country.”

She tells how now that she is independent and making a lot of money, she and her fiance ‘Kip’ decided to have a big and happy wedding.

“We thought it would be fun to have a color scheme. My favorite color is yellow, and his is blue, so my guests would wear yellow (or touches of yellow in neutrals), his would wear blue, and mutual friends would wear green. I chose a dress with green embroidered details and he chose a green floral boutonniere.

“When Jen found out about it, she went crazy. I didn’t know this, but she hates yellow as it “washes it out”. She told me under no circumstances would she wear yellow. I shrugged and said that was fine – I’d just kick him out if he wasn’t wearing yellow.”

Months passed and the arrangement was not discussed again until Jen showed up on the big day – wearing a purple dress.

“I told him to leave immediately”

“I told him to leave immediately. The color scheme was perfect and she ruined it. Jen refused to leave until I threatened to call security.

“The rest of the wedding went smoothly, but then my parents got mad at me for kicking Jen out. I told them I warned him he would be kicked out if he didn’t follow the color scheme, but they said they all thought it was a joke.

“They said it was cruel of me to kick my sister out for something so trivial. I told them that this was my wedding that I threw without their support, so I can evict whoever I want.”

The woman said her fiance Kip defended her decision and even told her parents they should be ashamed of the way they treated me. Since the wedding day, she has had many family members and friends who have given different opinions.

“Some say they wouldn’t have even invited Jen if they were me, while others think I should have let it slide.

“I invited Jen because she’s family and I honestly thought she was more mature than that.”

“Everyone else managed to do it”

The post has been viewed thousands of times and many readers have their thoughts on the whole sad situation.

One person began: “It’s also very telling to me that Jen is apparently the only guest who had issues with the color scheme. If everyone else managed to do it, then it wasn’t that hard.”

Another agreed, saying: “Make no mistake about it, this is exactly why your sister appeared purple, just in opposition. If yellow was really the problem, she could have asked to wear blue. Instead, she showed up in purple with the express purpose of upstaged the bride and groom and caused a scene, all the while knowing your parents would be rooting for her.

“Your parents have been shy with you since your sister showed up. Time to call them and your sister out on their disgusting behavior and blatant favoritism.”

“All About Social Media Aesthetics”

Some however had a problem with the whole color scheme concept to begin with.

“I’m becoming the equivalent of a boomer because I’m nostalgic for the days when attendees mattered more than what color they wore (in which case, idk why OP invited her sister to begin with!). But it’s all about social media aesthetics!”

Another felt similarly about the strict rules and wondered if anyone else would have been excluded.

“Also I think it’s weird to care so much about everyone being on topic. This is your wedding day. Do you really want to worry about police clothing and calling security on it?

“Makes it seem like aesthetics matter more than actually marrying the love of your life.”

Let’s hope the sisters move on from it to a healthier relationship.