My abusive father left me ‘effectively homeless’ – so am I right to face him?

A Reddit user who told his father he was now “effectively homeless” had every right to do so, other users of the website said.

“THE MOTHER WHO TELL MY DAD THAT HE ACTUALLY MADE ME HOMELESS?” asked “OkNumber787” in a Friday, August 16 post on Reddit’s “Am I the A–hole” (AITA) subreddit.

In the post, OkNumber787 explained that he is a 22-year-old male who moved out of his father’s house a year and a half ago.

“The deal he made with me was that I could always come home if I was struggling financially (I’m a university student and also work full time),” OkNumber787 said.

The deal he’s currently under ends Sept. 1, “and since about July, he and I have been in agreement that I can come back with him starting in September.”

However, this arrangement has recently changed.

“Speed ​​up today. He texts me and tells me that his current girlfriend is not okay with me living there and that I will have to find something else,” he said. “He told me this two weeks before my lease was up.”

The girlfriend said: “She didn’t want to hear me in the basement late at night as I leave work very late (I would have been quiet; the loudest noise would have been the alarm going off for 5 seconds when I opened the door).” he said.

“I tried to make a case for myself and told my dad that we’ve been agreeing for MONTHS that I could come home, but he’s still refusing,” he said, telling his dad that “he just made me homeless, and if I had known earlier that I couldn’t go back in, I would have looked elsewhere.”

His father refused to budge, saying, “He told me I had to grow up and deal with this like an adult, to understand my problems.”

“As it stands, most landlords aren’t even renting for Sept. 1 at this point. I’ll have to find a place for October 1st,” said OkNumber787, noting that he’ll likely be “surfing” for months. “AITA?”

In a follow-up comment to his post, OkNumber787 wrote that after asking “some coworkers said they could use an extra roommate to help with rent,” and that his grandparents also agreed to let him stay with them, but they they do this. does not live near his work or school.

“Right now, these are my two best options,” said OkNumber787.

On the AITA subreddit, people can reply to posts and indicate that the poster is “NTA” (“Not an A-hole”), “YTA” (“You’re an A-hole”), “NAH” (“Not an A-hole”). here”) or “ESH” (“Everyone breathes here”).

Users can “upvote” answers they think are helpful and “downvote” those that aren’t.

Of the nearly 1,500 responses to OkNumber787’s post, almost all said he was “NTA” and that his father was acting irrationally.

“NTA. It’s sad that he’s not even willing to temporarily house you to give you time to find another alternative, considering he made a commitment to you,” said Reddit user “owls_and_cardinals ” in the upvoted answer.

The user continued, “He’s picking his [girlfriend]his preferences over your basic needs, and justifying it by saying ‘Well, you’re an adult, understand.’ Adult or not, you had an AGREEMENT and therefore had no other agreements made and it is completely inappropriate for him to withdraw it at this point.”

Other users pointed out that OkNumber787’s father was not acting like an adult in this situation either, especially when it comes to housing policy.

“I would tell him that adults tend to have at least 30 days notice that they have to find new housing and that’s what you two had arranged and how was that not being an adult? Would you did he finance six weeks of a hotel for you, and the first and last of a place to live since you didn’t foresee the need for it? He had said for years that he would house you if you ever needed it ,” said user “Spinnerofyarn”.

“There [is] one reason that 30 days is the standard. Especially if you work full time,” said user “Having-hope3594”.

Fox News Digital reached out to OkNumber787 for additional comment and updates.

A family therapist told Fox News Digital that the father’s actions in this situation were wrong and may have permanently damaged their relationship.

“This father’s actions, unfortunately, do not reflect great parenting,” Rachel Goldberg, LMFT, founder of Rachel Goldberg Therapy in Los Angeles, told Fox News Digital in an email. “It is perfectly reasonable for a parent to want their child to take responsibility and learn to take care of themselves. However, the way this situation was handled – first offering his son support and then suddenly withdrawing it – damages their relationship and erodes trust.”

Goldberg added, “It also makes her life significantly more challenging. The fact that this decision seems to be influenced by the presence of a new person in his life is particularly damaging, as it implies that this new relationship is more important than his daughter. This can create a deep rift between them that will require considerable effort to repair, even if he eventually changes his mind. The damage is done and it sends a clear message that his daughter is not the priority.”